- You are a key member of your company.
- People rely on your leadership, interpersonal skills, judgments, and decisions
- People expect you to continually ‘come up with the goods’.
- As a matter of course, you are called upon to give keynote speeches, chair crucial meetings, develop strategy and people, focus on succession planning, handle crises, and deal with the internal and external pressures that go with your position.
Of course, others do expect you to handle all that and more with grace, professionalism, energy, and enthusiasm. And what about your life outside of the office – all that work-life balance stuff?
Even with all that going on, putting additional pressure on yourself is also not an uncommon phenomenon. It’s good to be really committed and responsible to your staff and your company but often you can end up setting expectations for yourself and your performance that are impossible to live up to — and you know that no one will give you a harder time about failing to live up to those expectations than you will yourself.
The expectation has long been that if you have a high IQ, achieve good grades, go to college, and demonstrate skills in your workplace, you were well on your way towards personal, career and financial success. Yet we all know smart and clever people who have failed in their personal and professional lives.
It is only relatively recently that success-related research at Yale has identified Emotional Intelligence (EI) as having more to do with success in life than a person’s IQ level. A study conducted by Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence and Working with Emotional Intelligence, compares star performers with average ones in senior leadership positions. The results were astounding. Nearly 90% of the difference in their profiles was attributable to Emotional Intelligence (EI) not to IQ. Only 10% of technical skills and IQ combined determined success.
Good executive coaching based on the key areas that define Emotional Intelligence should put all those work and life pressures into perspective and give you tools and additional skills to cope more effectively with everything that’s thrown at you:
- Awareness of the Self: the ability to tune into one’s own emotions and recognize their impact; using “gut sense” to guide decisions; perceiving how others see you.
- Actions of the Self: the ability to keep disruptive emotions and impulses managed in a healthy way, and positively channel one’s feelings; the ability to anticipate difficult encounters in order to manage them well.
- Awareness of Others: the ability to be empathetic and to sense another’s emotions; the ability to understand his or her perspective and to take an active interest in their concerns.
- Interaction with Others: involves skills that inspire, influence, and motivate others; the ability to develop others through feedback and guidance; the skill to resolve disagreements; and the ability to build bonds and create an environment of teamwork and cooperation.
- Resilience: the ability to bounce back, to be flexible, to be creative and innovative, and to adapt to the inevitable changes that life brings.
How can you provide such skills and knowledge to your executive team? You can purchase a self-paced workbook containing the same information, Emotional Intelligence for a Compassionate World: Workbook for Enhancing Emotional Intelligence Skills.